4 Signs That Say Someone is Dying to Kiss You

<img alt="Image result for Stock footage" height="337" src="http://footage.framepool.com/shotimg/725019642-lace-accessory-cheek-vest-bridal-couple.jpg" width="640" /><div><br />Are they kissing other parts of you already? We reveal the top signs you'll see when someone is very interested in kissing you.<br /><br /><br />First kisses are usually awkward moments for many people.<br /><br />You are wondering if he will allow you kiss him or if he'll say 'not yet' and leave you feeling like a fool.<br /><br />You really want to kiss her, but you do not know if it is too early and will get her scared away.<br /><br /><br /><br />Well, no one likes rejection and some people do not even recover from that awkward moment of having their puckered lips waved away, and the embarrassed silence that follows such moments.<br /><br />However, someone needs to make that move, or both of you will keep dying inside from a desire to lock lips with the other.<br /><br /><br /><br /><b>Stalling</b><br />Sometimes, people drag their feet when they should be on the move.<br /><br />Did she say good night after a date, but has refused to take a step away from where she is?<br /><br />She might want that kiss badly, and is waiting for you to do what she’s feeling shy to do. Please, try lean in for that kiss and set the sparks flying.<br /><br /><br /><br /><b>Kissing other parts of your body</b><br />For instance, his arm is placed across your shoulder, and he’s occasionally pressing his lips to your cheek, forehead, neck, arm, hands, etc. When a guy or girl does this, they surely will be looking to kiss your lips soon. [Of course, deeply] Wait for it, it’ll happen soon.<br /><br /><br /><br /><b>Drawing attention to their lips</b><br />People do this sometimes without even knowing. They lick their lips, or bite them in a kind of pre-kissing ritual, if you choose to see it that way.<br /><br />It has been said that if someone keeps putting their fingers near their lips or licking or biting them, it’s because they might be thinking about using them on you.<br /><br /><br /><br /><b>They stare at your lips</b><br />Of course, as they draw attention to their own lips, they are also concentrated on yours, staring ceaselessly at it as you speak.<br /><br />Don’t be surprised that the babe or guy will not even remember any or many of the things you say, they were not really listening, just imagining kissing your lips would feel like!<br /><br />Of course, we know some of you have other signs you watch out for. Feel free to let us know what they are in the comments section below.</div><div><br /></div><div>credit: <a href="http://pulse.ng/relationships/relationship-and-flirting-4-signs-that-say-someone-is-dying-to-kiss-you-id5637600.html">pulse.ng</a></div>

4 Signs That Say Someone is Dying to Kiss You

Are they kissing other parts of you already? We reveal the top signs you'll see when someone is very interested in kissing you. First ki...

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How To Make The First Move in 3 Easy Steps

<img alt="Image result for women asking men out" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhw7Jlx-iN0f41AU7RMshdwiPvUQwnpWgcPVArGDJmvvFcYmFm493JVmANhemoSjhbPH5rqdMZmMtI4mdT0_WGRwkFyWoB3AoozaF666WcVgu2iYxAnZP0GdOoC33dP0lrwZsl6F-A-7WZU/s640/couple-out-for-drinks.jpg" width="640" /><br /><br />Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you are around a good-looking guy who was too shy to approach you?<br /><br />So you are at a public event, a religious gathering, a concert etc, and you are sizing-up this guy, you catch him checking you out a few times, too.<br /><br />ALSO READ: <a href="http://relftalk.blogspot.com/2016/10/7-most-beautiful-places-on-earth-you.html" style="border: 0px; color: #c32700; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px; transition: all 0.25s; vertical-align: baseline;">#7 Most Beautiful Places On Earth You Don't Know Exist</a><br /><br />You both are supposed to exchange numbers, chat a few times, go on few dates, fall in love, become an item, and maybe live together forever…<br /><br />But nope,you didn’t even say hi till the event ended and you went your separate ways. Why? He did not come to speak to you first.<br /><br />The longstanding idea is that guys should approach girls first. Accepted.<br /><br />However, some guys are just shy, or don’t do well with rejection and would rather shut their mouths than have you curve them.<br /><br />While many girls are starting to warm up to the idea of walking up to the guy first, and are literally taking what they want, many still refuse to think there’s any sense to it.<br /><br />There’s a lot to say to convince such people but that might just be a discussion for another day.<br /><br />What we hope to do with this article is assist you, if you don’t mind walking up to that guy you’ve been eyeing for so long, but don’t know how to go about it.<br /><br />These are three easy steps that will make it easier for you to go after what you really want.<div><br /></div><div><br /><b>Don't worry about being embarrassed</b><br />Take it from a guy. It is extremely difficult to approach a guy and have him embarrass you.<br /><br />See, most likely 10 out of 10 guys will be more than cool with a woman approaching them and will actually find it very attractive.<br /><br />It's really hard to locate a guy who isn't flattered when a woman initiates a conversation with them or shows interest in them.<br /><br />Even if they are taken, and can’t pursue any serious relationship with you, be sure they won’t embarrass you. The chances of that happening are just too low.<div><br /></div><div><br /><b>Body Language</b><br />You want to get him to be attracted to you, primarily as a person, not as a sex-object, so desist from body contacts, such as holding his hand, or letting your hand rest on his shoulder for too long. Maintain eye contact, laugh and smile when it's called for, and just generally relax. You don't want to come across as too strong.<div><br /></div><div><br /><b>Leave the ball in his court</b><br />It's been proven that men tend to pick up the lead after initiation has been made.<br /><br />Once the ice is broken, he will get into the conversation too, and anyone who sees you both will not even be able to guess that you walked up to him and not the other way round.<br /><br />Who said he is not interested in you too, but was only too shy to make the first move?<br /><br />So, there's a big chance that now that the conversation has begun already, there will be no more inhibitions in his mind.<br /><br />Don't be surprised that he will even be the one to ask for your phone number.<br /><br />In conclusion, you should be confident in the fact that most guys will be flattered by your initiation and will most be quite grateful too!<br /><br />So here's the deal, when next you see that guy, why not walk up to him and talk to him? You never can tell the good things that might result from that conversation!</div></div></div><div><br /></div><div>credit: <a href="http://pulse.ng/relationships/ice-breakers-how-to-make-the-first-move-in-3-easy-steps-id5536951.html">pulse.ng</a></div>

How To Make The First Move in 3 Easy Steps

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5 Reasons Why Fighting is Good for Your Relationship

<img height="257" src="http://static.pulse.ng/img/incoming/origs5508747/2136367776-w644-h960/Fights-could-eventually-lead-to-a-happier-more-stable-relationship.jpg" width="640" /><br /><br />Below are five reasons why lovers' fights are needed in every relationship.<br /><br />First things first, this article is not about toxic, abusive relationships.<br /><br /><br />We’re talking here about healthy relationships and ‘normal’ lovers’ fights, which to a large extent is to be naturally expected, and as this article tries to prove, needed.<br /><br />Here are five reasons why…<div><br /></div><div><br /><b>It proves you're completely honest with each other</b><br />There’s a very chance that if you exposed the whole of yourself to your partner, there will be one or two things about you that they will not be too happy about, hence the need for a change.<br /><br />If you can voice your concern, stand up for your opinion, especially about something you’re not comfortable about, and argue with your partner about it, it proves that you’re honest enough and actually willing to make the relationship work.<br /><br />On the other hand, you could always pretend at all times that all is fine when you are actually not cool with anything at all. And really, that’s just totally uncool.<div><br /></div><div><br /><b>It proves you're not intimidated by one another</b><br />As opposed to an abusive relationship [which you should never stay in], fights in healthy relationships are symmetrical arguments where both partners are free to express their discontent at each other.<br /><br />If you’re not afraid to let your partner know what they’re doing wrong, then it means you’re at a point where you both are not scared or intimidated by each other; and that, dear friend, is a really good place to be in your relationship.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /><b>It helps you correct your flaws</b><br />Not only does a fight help correct your own defects, it also helps you point out your partner’s faults and vice-versa, and the cycle of correcting each other and growing as people goes on.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /><b>It creates good memories</b><br />Wondering how that works, right?<br /><br />Ok, picture this; several years down the line, you and your partner are now closer than ever, and you are at the best place to be in your relationship; but at first, it was not like that.<br /><br />You were always arguing and correcting and ironing out things. Eventually, you get to perfectly understand each other, and then, you can look back at the old days and smile at how far you have come now.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /><b>It keeps your ego at a reasonable level</b><br />When all is said and done, what matters more than the fight itself is how you resolve it. If you can get off your high-horse, apologies to each other and effectively resolve serious arguments, then you can be sure that you’re in it for the long run and can make this relationship work against all odds.</div><div><br /></div><div>credit: <a href="http://pulse.ng/relationships/relationship-talk-5-reasons-why-fighting-is-good-for-your-relationship-id5508717.html">pulse.ng</a><br /><div class="article_menus clearfix" style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border-color: rgb(217, 217, 217); border-image: initial; border-style: solid; border-width: 0px 0px 1px; color: #666666; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 11px; line-height: 12px; margin: 0px 0px 16px; min-height: 17px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><ul class="source" style="background: transparent; border: 0px none; float: left; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; overflow: hidden; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; width: 450px;"></ul></div></div></div>

5 Reasons Why Fighting is Good for Your Relationship

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3 Sure Ways to Find a Faithful Partner

<img alt="Sure ways to find a faithful partner" height="425" src="http://static.pulse.ng/img/incoming/origs5640559/9146363609-w644-h960/Sure-ways-to-find-a-faithful-partner.jpg" width="640" /><br /><br />If you are in search of a faithful partner, here are three things that can boost your chances of finding them quick<br /><br />No reasonable person ever goes into a relationship with the hope of getting cheated on.<br /><br />Faithfulness is a big, big factor in deciding who or not to date, and when one's heart has been broken a couple of times, that requirement becomes even more important.<br /><br />So if a genuinely faithful guy or lady is what you are after, here are the three things you really want to know about.<div><br /></div><div><br /><b>The company you keep</b><br />‘Birds of a feather, flock together,’ they say.<br /><br />If you are continuously in the midst of people who are serially unfaithful to all the partners they have been with, getting someone who is not unfaithful in those circles will be quite difficult.<br /><br />A guy introduced to you by your friend who is well known for her promiscuity might assume you are the same and treat you with little trust and respect, just as you would treat a promiscuous person.<br /><br />And without trust and respect, it would be quite hard to remain faithful to a partner.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /><b>Get involved at religious centers</b><br />Of course, not everyone you meet at a mosque or church will portray the characters expected of real Muslims or Christians.<br /><br />However, the chances of meeting those naturally moral, kind, compassionate and considerate men and women are highly increased in those places.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /><b>Be patient</b><br />Very importantly, you must exhibit patience.<br /><br />The type of guy or lady you want to meet and others like him are out there, but they are highly-outnumbered by the jerks and losers.<br /><br />Therefore, see this as a process of sieving sand out of rice. It requires a lot of patience.</div><div><br /></div><div>credit: <a href="http://pulse.ng/relationships/love-and-dating-3-sure-ways-to-find-a-faithful-partner-id5640588.html">pulse.ng</a><br /><div class="article_menus clearfix" style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border-color: rgb(217, 217, 217); border-image: initial; border-style: solid; border-width: 0px 0px 1px; color: #666666; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 11px; line-height: 12px; margin: 0px 0px 16px; min-height: 17px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><ul class="source" style="background: transparent; border: 0px none; float: left; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; overflow: hidden; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; width: 450px;"></ul></div></div>

3 Sure Ways to Find a Faithful Partner

If you are in search of a faithful partner, here are three things that can boost your chances of finding them quick No reasonable person eve...

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6 steps to get over an ex

<div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 26px;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjmaluv23198t3O2IcNbQtfAtbkuUDZ-fcUCD6CL5S6AjDlbsAVSS_ok-ZaC5WtwYF7W3N84CDGJ7bP3kHOoI4zKnQP9cW5zNqS_-U8R6znaoDsMgUSJw0XwgT3HQDPaTBjXAUkO_a8jx8/s1600/13-definite-ways-to-get-over-a-break-up-2-638.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="300" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjmaluv23198t3O2IcNbQtfAtbkuUDZ-fcUCD6CL5S6AjDlbsAVSS_ok-ZaC5WtwYF7W3N84CDGJ7bP3kHOoI4zKnQP9cW5zNqS_-U8R6znaoDsMgUSJw0XwgT3HQDPaTBjXAUkO_a8jx8/s400/13-definite-ways-to-get-over-a-break-up-2-638.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><br />Trying hard to get over your ex and still failing to? Check out these six steps that may help you get over your ex.</div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 26px;"><br /><b>6. Accept The Fact That It Is Over</b><br /><br />The first and most difficult step to getting over an ex is to convince yourself that they’re gone and it’s over. You can’t be friends with them, because if you stay as friends your feelings will keep growing and you will End up crying to them one day. You can’t contact them for anything. You can’t check up on them. Accept That they’re gone, those hugs and kisses are gone, those hang outs are gone, those dates are the past. It is not at all easy but it is vital that you make yourself understand this. Stop stalking them on their social Network accounts, delete their number, delete your photos with them. It will hurt now but it is for your own Good for a better and happier future, always remember why you broke up and help it make you stronger.</div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 26px;"><br /><b>5. Don’t Talk To Their Friends</b><br /><br />You probably became good friends with their friends and you guys started hanging out together. Stop talking To them, the more you talk to them, the more your mind will tell you to ask about your ex and how they’re doing And if they’re seeing anyone now, and it will all end up hurting you and eventually throwing yourself at them again And being hurt again.</div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 26px;"><br /><b>4. You CAN’T Be Friends</b><br /><br />When I broke up with my ex, we decided to at least stay as friends, BIG MISTAKE! Slowly and surely, we Started talking about our feelings again, and then it went on and ended up being another breakup which Hurt a lot more than the last one. You simply can not be friends with your ex because it wasn’t the relationship You guys were in to begin with, your relationship started with love, and when love is in the mix it just doesn’t Go away no matter how cool you try being with them, you’ll continue feeling stronger for them and it’ll hurt you In the end.</div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 26px;"><br /><b>3. No Contact, On Any Level</b><br /><br />Keep this in mind, if you contact your ex for any reason you’ll slowly want to talk more to them and you’ll get Interested again. It starts off with a harmless phone call or a text message and it leads to you two talking all Night and saying how much you miss each other. The part where you two broke up and why suddenly vanishes And all you can think of is being with them again. So it’s a HUGE no, don’t ever contact them, have no means To contact them, and if they contact you just simply ignore them because they won’t do it forever. Don’t be Weak and help yourself get through it.</div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-bottom: 26px;"><br /><b>2. Don’t Keep Anything That Reminds You Of Them</b><br /><br />Throw away everything that they gave you, don’t keep anything that makes you think of them and how sweet They were and how awesome they were because they broke up with you for a reason. And making yourself Think of the good times will make you forget the bad and make you commit the same mistake again. So Don’t keep anything that belongs to them or they gave you, it will be extremely hard but it will be worth it.<br /><br /><br /><br /><b>1. Hang Out With Family And Friends</b><br /><br />Now that you’ve told yourself it’s over, stop killing yourself for it and start living your life again. If you have good Friends, they’ll make sure you get as happy as possible. Your family also understands. Be around positive People who make you feel good and you’ll be back on your feet in no time!<br /><br />credit: <a href="http://relrules.com/">relrules.com</a></div>

6 steps to get over an ex

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5 Sure Signs a Guy Wants to End it

<img alt="Lovers on a beach" src="http://static.pulse.ng/img/incoming/origs5462534/5905563791-w644-h429/relationship-tips-2.jpg" /><br /><br />In relationships guys find it hard to break up physically, they'd rather show these signs instead...<br /><br />There are signs a guy is done with relationship and they start from the vibes he gives off.<br /><div><br />In relationships guys are surprisingly the ones who find it hard to break up physically, they'd rather show signs than pass the message i.e the breakup across with actual words.<br /><br />There are many ways a guy can show he's done with the lady in a relationship and these are sure ones to look out for:<br /><br /><b>1. He starts off meaningless fights and for no reason</b><br />He snaps at jokes he ordinarily wouldn't and everything the lady does at this point is annoying to him. He ultimately wants/waiting for a spark to end the relationship.<br /><br /><b>2. He disappears at will</b><br />All of a sudden the once smitten, always around guy is nowhere to be found. He finds it difficult to pick up the phone to call or even pick up the phone when the lady does.<br /><br /><b>3. He's mean for no reason</b><br />He doesn't consider the other party's feelings or emotions anymore, he just comes across as cold (very cold).<br /><br /><b>4. He pays no attention/gets distant</b><br />A guy planning to break off with his lady doesn't pay attention anymore. He actually doesn't pay any mind to the lady, what she wants and sometimes he strays/his thoughts stray when having a converation.<br /><br /><b>5. He isn't close to you anymore</b><br />The guy stops intimate conversations, hangs out without you and generally starts 'doing his own thing'.<br /><br />If all these signs and more persist, he may have moved on or just not interested anymore.</div><div><br /></div><div>credit: <a href="http://pulse.ng/relationships/relationship-tips-5-sure-signs-a-guy-wants-to-end-it-id5635392.html">pulse.ng</a><br /><div class="article_menus clearfix" style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border-color: rgb(217, 217, 217); border-image: initial; border-style: solid; border-width: 0px 0px 1px; color: #666666; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 11px; line-height: 12px; margin: 0px 0px 16px; min-height: 17px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><ul class="source" style="background: transparent; border: 0px none; float: left; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; overflow: hidden; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; width: 450px;"></ul></div></div>

5 Sure Signs a Guy Wants to End it

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27 things men do in bed that women hate

<img height="424" src="http://metrouk2.files.wordpress.com/2014/05/no-strings-attached-untagged-and-high-res-natalie-portman-19508386-2560-1701.jpg?w=620&h=411&crop=1" width="640" /><br /><br />Sex isn't always sexy! Here are 27 things men do during sex that ladies totally hate.<br /><br />Read Also: <a href="http://relftalk.blogspot.com.ng/2016/10/7-most-beautiful-places-on-earth-you.html" style="border: 0px; color: #c32700; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px; transition: all 0.25s; vertical-align: baseline;">#7 Most Beautiful Places On Earth You Don't Know Exist</a><br /><br />You should know by now that not everything that happens during sex is actually sexy. No?<br /><br />Well then, let's enlighten you a little. Sometime ago, we talked about 25 things women do during sex that men hate.<br /><br />Now it's time to turn the tables and ask the women how they feel while doing the dirty.<br /><br />Metro UK went on Facebook and asked the womenfolk what dudes do in the sack that they hate, and below are their answers. [Warning: contains adult content, obviously].<br /><br /><br />1. 'When they try to recreate sex positions that they've obviously seen on some online porn site, and you end up basically doing a headstand, looking a mess and having to listen to them say: "You're loving that aren't you babes?" Err, no.'<br /><br /><br />2. 'When you're on top and they're just staring at you and it's like, ahhh what face do I pull? So you just close your eyes and hope for the best.'<br /><br /><br />3. 'When they ask YOU to put the condom on. Just no.'<br /><br /><br />4. 'When they think it's sexy to spank you so hard that you just want to turn around and punch them in the face.'<br /><br /><br />5 'When they just stop, and it's like, "hello? Did you hear me orgasm?" No.'<br /><br /><br />6. 'Asking "do you like that?" How about just don't talk and see if I look like I don't want to kill myself/watch Scandal over your shoulder.'<br /><br /><br />7. 'When you give them a blow job and they act as if you don't have a gag reflex. How about I throw up all over your penis?'<br /><br /><br />8. 'When they ask you to strip (which is always awkward – what music do you put on?) and then your skinny jeans get stuck round your ankles.'<br /><br /><br />9. 'When they see random things they've read online and think they're a good idea. Err no, I don't want ice rubbed all over my body.'<br /><br /><br />10. 'When you're in the middle of foreplay and they thrust a finger up your bum with NO warning.'<br /><br /><br />11. 1'When they drag it out because they're waiting for you to orgasm first. You're going to be waiting a while for that…'<br /><br /><br />12. 'Trying to go down on you in the morning when you're feeling really unsexy and unclean. Just gross.'<br /><br /><br />13. 'Putting their fingers everywhere at once like they're playing some sort of instrument. Far too confusing, you just don't know what's going on down there.'<br /><br /><br />14. 'When they think it's a good idea to stick objects in you. Just no.'<br /><br /><br />15. 'Casually trying to have anal sex without asking and without lube. It does not just slip in there.'<br /><br /><br />16. 'Being so aggressive with their hands during foreplay that they pretty much give you internal bleeding.'<br /><br /><br />17. 'Nipple biting. It just f*****g hurts.'<br /><br /><br />18. 'Pulling your hair so hard you scream and your eyes water.'<br /><br /><br />19. 'Baggy boxers. Eww.'<br /><br /><br />20. 'Man stubble. And not the type that's on his face.'<br /><br /><br />21. 'When a bloke wants to do 69 but insists he's on top, so you basically suffocate under him. Vom.'<br /><br /><br />22. 'Eating fried chicken before a blow job. Pretty much the worst taste imaginable.'<br /><br /><br />23. 'When men rush foreplay and think you're going to orgasm from 27 seconds.'<br /><br /><br />24. 'Wanting to ejaculate on your face, in your hair, in your eyes.'<br /><br /><br />25. 'Being passive aggressive when they can't make you orgasm. So sexy.'<br /><br /><br />26. 'Trying to remove underwear with their teeth. What even is that?'<br /><br />credit: <a href="http://pulse.ng/relationships/couples-only-27-things-men-do-in-bed-that-women-hate-id3341913.html">pulse.ng</a><br />'Not cleaning properly. It's not attractive to taste urine.'

27 things men do in bed that women hate

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5 Simple Reasons Good Relationships go Bad

<img alt="Image result for black couple breaking up" height="529" src="http://www.36ng.com.ng/wp-content/uploads/2015/08/couple-black-nigeria-relationship.jpg" width="640" /><br /><br />Here are 5 simple reasons why a seemingly good relationship could turn sour within a short period of time.<br /><br /><br />Sometimes you see a couple who have been together for a while and everything seems to be going great, then suddenly the relationship comes to an abrupt end.<br /><br />The first question that comes to mind after this is "what went wrong?"<br /><br />Well, you didn't see it coming, but here are 5 reasons why a good relationship could go bad.<br /><br /><br /><b>1. Unchecked Emotional Baggage:</b> Now, hopefully your partner's baggage doesn't include a surprise child, but we have heard worse. The biggest type of baggage which will stop the best relationship in its tracks? Unresolved emotional issues. All of us carry around wounds we've received as children, or in past relationships, but the key is how willing you are to examine them, understand them, and work through them. Left unchecked, you'll likely encounter the same problems in every relationship you start. Self-exploration is a wonderful thing!<br /><br /><br /><b>2. You (or He) Stopped Trying:</b> "Things started out great! He planned nights out, made me dinner, and now I can't get him off of the couch!" Some people put their best feet forward when trying to woo their partners, but once they are feeling comfortable, they stop putting any thought or energy into the relationship. This can be a fatal error. Both partners have to give in a relationship, and that means sharing responsibilities, thinking up date ideas, and providing dinner (even if it's take-out!).<br /><br /><br /><b>3. You Started Criticizing: </b>A once-fantastic relationship can turn negative when one of the parties starts picking apart the other. There really isn't room for this in a flourishing relationship, where both people should be lifting one another up — not tearing them down.<br /><br /><br /><b>4. You Got Too Physical Too Fast:</b> It takes time to form the healthy emotional circuits needed to sustain a lasting relationship. Trust and the willingness to commit can't be rushed. But surging sexual energy can shut out a potential partnership if switched on too early. Becoming physically intimate can open up a large amount of issues that put pressure on a fledgling relationship, so proceed at a pace that feels right for you.<br /><br /><br /><b>5. There's Too Much Distance:</b> An emotionally distant partner can be frustrating, which is why it is important to keep the communication flowing. When the talking and sharing stops, an invisible wall goes up, which can lead to some very unhappy endings. When it comes to a long-distance relationship (LDR), it can certainly work, usually if there is an end goal in sight (knowing that eventually you will be living in the same city!). If you are entering into a LDR and you happen to be jealous or insecure, then you are in for a tough road ahead. It's best to really consider whether you can handle these types of challenges — or not.<div><br /></div><div>credit: <a href="http://pulse.ng/relationships/love-tips-5-simple-reasons-good-relationships-go-bad-id3355014.html">pulse.ng</a><br /><div class="article_menus clearfix" style="background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border-color: rgb(217, 217, 217); border-image: initial; border-style: solid; border-width: 0px 0px 1px; color: #666666; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 11px; line-height: 12px; margin: 0px 0px 16px; min-height: 17px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><ul class="source" style="background: transparent; border: 0px none; float: left; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; overflow: hidden; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; width: 450px;"></ul></div></div>

5 Simple Reasons Good Relationships go Bad

Here are 5 simple reasons why a seemingly good relationship could turn sour within a short period of time. Sometimes you see a couple who ha...

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7 Ways To Be A Good Listener in Your Relationship

<img alt="Image result for 7 Ways To Be A Good Listener" height="480" src="http://liveboldandbloom.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/02/good-listener-e14247013841941.png" width="640" /><br /><br />Think about how powerful it is to be heard.<br /><br />In fact, reflect on an occasion when you had something to say, something important or vulnerable to share, and you knew you had the full attention of the other person.<br /><br />That level of attention, when you know the other person is really listening to you, makes you feel valued. It makes you feel safe, understood, and important. Being heard validates you.<br /><br />Now think about a time when you had something to say, but you didn’t get that level of attention. The other person was distracted, looking at their phone, clearly thinking about something else, or mentally lining up their response without acknowledging your words.<br /><br />You felt ignored, diminished, and inconsequential. Their inability or unwillingness to really hear you felt like a slap in the face.<br /><br />Unfortunately, the art of being a good listener is becoming more and more of a lost art. Face to face and even phone conversations are no longer the primary way we communicate. The gatekeepers of our interactions are the computer and cell phone where we email or text in terse, abbreviated, and frequently misunderstood communiques.<br /><br />When we do have in-person conversations, these same devices turn us into one of Pavlov’s dogs, immediately turning our attention the minute we hear a ding. It’s nearly impossible to be a good listener when you’re on constant alert for some other more important message coming in.<br /><br />We all know it’s important to be a good listener because we know how good it feels when we’re heard. Most of us want to be active listeners and to have the people we care about feel heard. But the ability to listen well affords other benefits beyond supporting others and gaining their appreciation.<br /><br />Good listeners can . . .<br /><div><br /><ul><li>improve relationships in their personal and professional lives, as people tend to like those who listen to them;</li></ul><div><ul><li>better solve problems for others and themselves;</li></ul></div><div><ul><li>learn different points of views to broaden their own perspective;</li></ul></div><div><ul><li>retain more important information which is useful for life and career success;</li></ul></div><div><ul><li>make decisions easily because they have more information at their disposal;</li></ul></div><div><ul><li>avoid conflicts and misunderstandings, as they gain more clarity through listening well;</li></ul></div><div><ul><li>increase their confidence because they have access to information and can pass it on to others.</li></ul><br />Being a good listener is similar to having good manners. It’s a quality that doesn’t seem to be a social requirement any longer, but if you practice it, it sets you apart from the crowd and makes others gravitate toward you.</div><div><br /><b>If you’d like to sharpen your skills, here’s how to be a good listener:</b><br /><b><br /></b><b>1. Remove or avoid distractions.</b><br />If you are going to converse with someone (or several people), then take a moment to anticipate possible distractions and remove them. Turn off your cell phone and put it away. Turn your computer off or turn off the sound so you can’t hear emails and notifications coming in. Turn off the TV, radio, or any other device that could be distracting.<br /><br />If someone needs to speak to you, and you’re in the middle of a project or task, either ask them to wait until you’re done, or stop what you’re doing to listen. Multi-tasking doesn’t allow for true listening.<br /><br />If you’re in a social setting, and you are speaking one-on-one with someone, try to step aside to a quiet space where you won’t be pulled away or interrupted by other people. Definitely don’t look over the other person’s shoulder while they’re talking to see who else is in the room.</div><div><br /><br /><b>2. Watch for non-verbal communication and tone of voice.</b><br />Hearing someone’s words is just a small part of being a good listener. We communicate far more through our expressions, body language, and tone of voice.<br /><br />When you are listening to someone, also watch them carefully. Are their arms crossed defensively, or are they sitting in an open, confident manner? Are they saying, “Everything’s fine” with their words, but their face looks pinched and anxious?<br /><br />Also, listen to how they present what they have to say. Do they sound tired, depressed, enthusiastic, confused? Are they mumbling, talking too loudly, or stating everything as though it were a question?<br /><br />Learn the art of reading what people are really saying beyond their words. This can help you be more compassionate and understanding of people — and it can help you avoid getting involved with someone who appears deceitful, disinterested, or controlling.<br /><br /><br /><b>3. Be the mirror.</b><br />A great technique for active listening is mirroring the person you are listening to. Without appearing to mimic them, try to reflect back their same tone of voice and speech pattern. You can also mirror their gestures and body language.<br /><br />Mirroring helps build rapport with the other person, and it encourages the feeling that you share similar attitudes and ideas.<br /><br />You can also reflect the concept or ideas you just heard communicated from the other person to reinforce that you understood and heard what they said. This is particularly important in your intimate relationships or in conflict situations.<br /><br />For example, the other person might say, “I feel really hurt when you don’t help me clean up after dinner.” You might summarize and restate, “So what I’m hearing you say is that when I don’t help you clean up, it causes you pain.” You reflect words back to show you understood them correctly and that you care what was communicated.</div><div><br /><br /><b>4. Empathize, sympathize, and show interest.</b><br />You can show your interest and connection in a conversation through your own expressions, body language, and words.<br /><br />Nod in agreement to show you are engaged and listening. Lean forward toward the other person. Smile or show concern appropriately. Offer words of affirmation and kindness. Give a hand squeeze or a warm touch on the shoulder to show empathy.<br /><br />These subtle communications speak volumes about your level of engagement, concern, and interest.<br /><br /><br /><b>5. Practice silence.</b><br />Sometimes the very best way to listen is to allow a space of silence in the conversation. A verbal response isn’t always necessary, and this space of silence invites the speaker to offer more of what they are thinking and feeling.<br /><br />It’s uncomfortable to sit in silence for more than a few seconds, but push past the discomfort and just sit with it. Sometimes the most powerful connections are made in that silent space.<br /><br /><br /><b>6. Ask probing questions.</b><br />As a coach, I use powerful questions frequently with my clients to help them uncover answers and solutions for themselves.<br /><br />I use open-ended questions that require more than a “yes” or “no” response. Open-ended questions invite deeper insight and discourse between the two of you. Simply the act of asking a probing question as a follow-up to a comment shows the other person you are paying attention and interested.<br /><br />Be sure your questioning doesn’t become an interrogation. You want to listen more than you question, but when you do ask a question, it should be well-timed and non-threatening. Something as simple as, “Can you tell me more about that?” is enough to show you are really listening.<br /><br /><br /><b>7. Don’t interrupt or change the subject.</b><br />If you want to be a good listener, you need to allow the speaker to complete a thought without interrupting them. You’ve probably encountered people who frequently interrupt, take over the conversation, and use the audience as a platform for talking about themselves or sharing their knowledge or expertise.<br /><br />Even if they are doing this unconsciously, it feels as though they haven’t heard a word you’ve said — or that they don’t really care about what you have to say.<br /><br />Before you interject your response or make your case, be sure the other person is finished speaking. Allow for a pause in the conversation long enough to ensure it’s your turn to talk.<br /><br />Also, don’t leave the speaker hanging out there with a conversation topic they’ve started by abruptly changing the subject. Offer a response or an additional thought to the topic before you move on to something you want to talk about.<br /><br /><br /><b>8. Think before responding.</b><br />When it is your time to speak, let your words be a reflection of your careful listening. If you are truly engaged in what the other person is saying, then you aren’t focused on what you want to say.<br /><br />So rather that blurting out the first thing that comes to mind, take a moment to think about your response and what you want to offer. If your opinion is solicited, be sure you reflect carefully on what you just heard so you can offer a well-considered reply.<br /><br />Becoming a good listener is a skill you must practice. It’s far too easy to spin off into your own world of distractions, ideas, and words. Consciously work on becoming more of a listener than a talker. Learn to read other people’s expressions and body language. Watch for the things that go unsaid but that are still communicated.<br /><br />As you become more skilled at listening, you’ll find people gravitate toward you more for your opinion and feedback. You’ll have a skill that gives you the edge in your career and in all of your relationships.<br /><br />What do you need to do to become a better listener? Please share your thoughts in the comments below.</div></div><div><br /></div><div>credit: <a href="http://liveboldandbloom.com/">liveboldandbloom.com</a></div>

7 Ways To Be A Good Listener in Your Relationship

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6 Signs Your Life Partner Is Secretly Unhappy

<img alt="Image result for guy and girl unhappy" height="464" src="http://www.qlove.biz/wp-content/uploads/2016/06/woman-ignores-man.jpg" width="640" /><br /><br />You haven’t caught them sneaking off to make late-night calls to mysterious numbers. There haven’t been any blow-out fights that make you reconsider your entire relationship. And their behavior hasn’t been very significantly different from what it used to be. But for some reason, you still can’t shake off the feeling that something is off.<br /><br />Read Also: <a href="http://relftalk.blogspot.com.ng/2016/10/7-most-beautiful-places-on-earth-you.html" style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px; transition: all 0.25s; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="color: red;">#7 Most Beautiful Places On Earth You Don't Know Exist</span></a><br /><br />Here are 6 signs to know whether that feeling is right:<br /><br /><b>1. They have been acquiring electronics obsessively</b><br />The novelist and essayist, Charles Baxter, states in his book ‘Burning Down the House’: “People in a traumatized state tend to love their furniture.” You actually start gathering things to fight against your loneliness.<br /><br />In another study to confirm this same theory, Margaret Clark, a professor of psychology at Yale, revealed that “people who attach more value to their possessions may be less secure in their personal relationships than those who put less value on material goods.” A brand new PS4 isn’t going to be complicated. And a shiny new MacBook Pro isn’t going to expect much from you.<br /><br /><b>2. You’ve started feeling like the “Dining Dead.”</b><br />The very first time this happened, you thought to yourself,” How nice is this, we can sit comfortably in silence as well.” But on the 15th instance, you might end up experiencing a chill so subtle that you start blaming it on the temperature in the room. There you are, sitting together in a very nice place… and have absolutely nothing to say to one another. <br /><br /><b>3. Instead of trying to hear you out, they’ll say, “We’ve already been through this.”</b><br />No one in their right mind would ever want to argue with another person, especially the person they’re in love with. But if you’re in a healthy relationship and there comes a desperate time when an argument becomes absolutely unavoidable, your partner will actually make an effort to listen to what you’re saying, rather than constantly focusing on how repetitive or annoying the argument is.<br /><br />At times, it might feel like they’re doing you both a favor by cutting a fight short- but it can also mean that they just don’t care enough to actually figure out why you’re upset, or to look together for a solution to all the problems.<br /><br /><b>4. You’re starting to hear Way Too Much about Anna/John from Work</b><br />“So Anna/John, from work, is in a really awful place with their ex,” they tell you, a little too sympathetically. You also nod sympathetically, because you remember how Anna/John has been facing some digestive problems which is why they’re eating gluten-free, and also that their aunt, with whom they were really close, died last week, and… okay wait. Why exactly do you know so much about this person from work?<br /><br />An overly eager friendship with someone from work might not translate into fun times in the conference room, and you’re not the kind of person who will forbid them to have friends from the opposite sex, but it could still suggest that something has been lacking from your relationship that they’re starting to look for someplace else.<br /><br />And they may not be aware of this either. But when they start having more sympathy for the ongoing tales of Anna/John at work than they do for your various ordeals in life, then that’s definitely more than being a concerned colleague. It’s more of a “It’s time for us to talk” memo.<br /><br /><b>5. They can’t seem to leave you alone</b><br />For some odd reason, your other half can’t stop following you around all night, when all you really wish to do is finish up your chores in peace so you can move on to your true passion in life (i.e. binge watching Game of Thrones again).<br /><br />They keep tapping your shoulder and coming up with absurd questions about how electric toothbrushes work, and how to use the dry cleaner or what RSVP really stands for. Are they deliberately trying to annoy you? My guess is no!<br /><br />The truth is they’re probably hungry for some attention at this point, and are therefore resorting to the adult version of sleeve-tugging. Just give them some time and attention in order to nurture your relationship.<br /><br /><b>6. They go out to Guys’/girls’ Night somewhere new every week</b><br />Every time you’re together, you order the exact same Chinese food- same place, same dishes, same dips to go with your order! You select movies of the same genre from Netflix every other weekend. You even seem to share the exact same cuddling position that has felt comfortable to you since ages.<br /><br />And then you go on to complain to your friends,” They never want to try anything new!” But that isn’t completely true, is it? Because when they’re with their friends, they will try absolutely anything, from skydiving to eating fried kale. When you’re in a committed relationship, you need to make an effort in keeping things exciting and passionate.<br /><br />You need to keep trying out new things together. And there always needs to be room for some change. Your partner should always feel comfortable enough to say:<br /><br /><br />“This might sound a bit crazy, but I think we should…”<br /><div><br /><b>Talk to me</b><br />Every relationship goes through a rough patch, what matters is how you come out of it smiling. Let me know your experiences in the comments below!<br /><br />credit: <a href="http://www.relrules.com/6-signs-your-life-partner-is-secretly-unhappy/2/">relrules.com</a></div>

6 Signs Your Life Partner Is Secretly Unhappy

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8 Reasons You Should Never Throw Away Your Orange Peels

<img alt="Image result for orange peel" height="426" src="https://topnaturalremedies.net/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/orange-peel-and-its-benefits.jpg" width="640" /><br /><br />Every time I eat an orange, I always start by skinning it and throwing away the peels. Apparently, I’ve been doing it wrong my whole life! Just beneath the skin peels lies an abundance of fruit acids and vitamin C. The peels even have more phytonutrients and flavonoids than the inner pulp – which most of us have been tossing down the drain.<br /><br />Here are 8 reasons I’ve recently discovered as to why you should never throw away your orange peels.<div><br /></div><b>1. Peels Improve Skin Tone</b><br />Orange peels can remove skin blemishes and dark spots! Their vitamin C content maintains your skin’s suppleness, prevents dullness and adds a healthy glow. It even acts as a natural sunscreen by blocking harmful UV rays! (Note: I wouldn’t use this as a replacement for sunscreen.)<br /><br />Here’s how:<div><br />1. Mix 2 teaspoons each of orange peel powder and plain yogurt along with 1 teaspoon of honey to make a paste.</div><div><br />2. Apply the paste to your face and neck, and gently massage in a circular motion.</div><div><br />3. Let it sit for about 20 minutes, then rinse it off with warm water.<br /></div><div>4. Use this face mask paste 2 to 3 times per week.</div><div><br /><br /><b>2. Fights Aging Signs</b><br />Orange peels contain tons of antioxidants, which fight off the free radicals responsible for wrinkles and sagging skin. This also works as a great skin toner!<br /><br />Here’s how:<br /></div><div>1.Mix 1 tablespoon each of orange peel powder and oatmeal powder with enough honey to make a paste.<br /></div><div>2. Apply this paste on your face and neck area.<br /></div><div>3. Let it sit for about 30 minutes, then rinse it off with cold water.<br /></div><div>4. Apply once a week for the best results.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /><b>3. Whitens Teeth</b><br />You know that yellow tinge on your teeth? Orange peels can remove it! They contain a compound called d-limonene, which helps reduce teeth staining (even from smoking!)<br /><br />Here’s how:</div><div><br /><ul><li>Rub the inside of an orange peel (the white portion) over your teeth for 2 to 3 minutes, then rinse. Do this twice a day until you’ve got those pearly whites.</li></ul></div><div><br /><ul><li>Alternatively, you could mix some orange peel powder and some water to make a paste. Add dried leaves for bonus points. Use this paste on your toothbrush and brush your teeth. Repeat twice a day for a few weeks.</li></ul></div><div><br /></div><div><br /><b>4. Aids Weight Loss</b><br />Vitamin C has been shown to help you lose weight. Orange peels have tons of the stuff. In order to aid your weight loss goals, replace coffee or soda with orange peel tea.<br /><br />Here’s how:</div><div><br />1. Dry the peels from some organic oranges in a cool, dry place.</div><div><br />2. Put 1 tablespoon of dried peels in 1 cup of hot water.</div><div><br />3. Cover and steep for 10 minutes.</div><div><br />4. Remove the peels and add some raw honey.</div><div><br />5. Drink 2 cups daily.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /><b>5. Lowers Bad Cholesterol</b><br />Orange peels can reduce low-density lipoproteins (LDL or the ‘bad’ cholesterol) in your body. LDL increases the risk of heart disease and heart attacks. The pectin in orange peels helps to reduce cholesterol and even lower blood pressure!<br /><br />All you have to do is drink the orange peel tea I talked about above twice a day, every day.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /><b>6. Regulates Bowel Movements</b><br />Orange peels can improve your digestion! The high dietary fiber in them helps regulate your bowel movements and prevents constipation. This is also a good treatment for various digestive disorders, including indigestion, gas, irritable bowel syndrome, bloating and heartburn. Oh, and that awesome pectin in the peels promotes the growth of healthy bacteria in your gut!<br /><br />After you finish eating, just (you guessed it!) drink a cup of orange peel tea.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /><b>7. Works as a Natural Air Freshener</b><br />Let’s face it: Oranges smell fantastic. Their peels smell fantastic as well. That strong citrus smell is great at masking unpleasant odors across your home.<br /><br />Here’s how:</div><div><br /><ul><li>Put a handful of fresh orange peels, some lemon juice, and some cinnamon sticks in 2 cups of water. Boil for 10 minutes. Strain, allow the mixture to cool and then transfer it into a spray bottle. Use as needed!</li></ul></div><div><ul><li>Put some orange peel powder in small bottles and use them around the house.</li></ul></div><div><ul><li>Put dried orange peels at the bottom of your trashcan to stop those awful smells from cropping up.</li></ul><b><div><b><br /></b></div>8. Repels Mosquitos and Ants</b><br />Bugs suck. But you’re in luck – they hate orange peels! They don’t like the limonene (which contributes to the citrus smell) in the orange peels. This actually works with all citrus fruit peels.<br /><br />Here’s how:</div><div><br /><ul><li>Make some orange peel powder and put it in areas where bugs congregate.</li></ul></div><div><br /><ul><li>Rub fresh orange peels all over your skin to act as a natural bug repellent.</li></ul><br />There you have it – don’t throw out those orange peels!</div><div><br /></div><div>credit: <a href="http://www.lifehack.org/450482/8-reasons-you-should-never-throw-away-your-orange-peels">lifehack.com</a></div>

8 Reasons You Should Never Throw Away Your Orange Peels

Every time I eat an orange, I always start by skinning it and throwing away the peels. Apparently, I’ve been doing it wrong my whole life! J...

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Relationship Help: 10 Ways To Keep Your Love Evergreen

<img alt="Relationship Help" height="426" src="http://liveboldandbloom.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/10/photo-1459259191495-52eccde892c7-1-e1476120836689.jpeg?x55655" width="640" /><br /><br />The excitement that stems from a new relationship can make you feel on top of the world. As the newness wears off, the relationship can feel like it’s growing stale. You aren’t doomed to remain in a dull and boring relationship, however. There are some steps you can take to keep a mature relationship fresh and exciting.<br /><br />Read Also: <a href="http://relftalk.blogspot.com.ng/2016/10/7-most-beautiful-places-on-earth-you.html" style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px; transition: all 0.25s; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="color: red;">#7 Most Beautiful Places On Earth You Don't Know Exist</span></a><br /><div><br /><b>1. Keep the Element of Surprise Alive</b><br /><br />Surprise your partner from time to time in a variety of ways. Arrive home with a small gift, cook your partner’s favorite meal or book a surprise weekend getaway. These types of surprises will keep the excitement alive and prevent you from getting stuck in a relationship rut.</div><div><br /><b>2. Send Romantic Text Messages</b><br />When you’re apart, send romantic text messages to one another. This can build anticipation for when you’ll see each other again. Use texting to send short messages of love, admiration, and encouragement. Don’t be afraid to send some sexy text messages to spice things up. It is a simple and easy way to keep the romance in your relationship.</div><div><br /><b>3. Schedule Regular Date Nights</b><br /><br />Most couples go on dates regularly during the initial phase of their relationship. However, going out to dinner often gets traded in for sitting on the couch. As a result, the relationship can become a little dull. Schedule regular date nights so you can spend quality time together as a couple.</div><div><br /><b>4. Verbalize Your Loving Feelings</b><br /><br />Don’t forget to use your words to express your feelings. Sometimes people forget all those mushy things they used to say to one another once the relationship matures. Say, “I love you,” often and don’t shy away from words that truly express how you feel.</div><div><br /><b>5. Try Something New Together</b><br />Participating in a new activity together can keep the relationship exciting. Take a Chinese cooking class, volunteer at a soup kitchen, or take golf lessons together. A willingness to learn something new can help you grow together as a couple.</div><div><br /><b>6. Spend Time with Other Couples</b><br /><br />Spending time with couples who have healthy relationships can be good for you. Look for couples who share your values and who have a strong relationship. It can help reinforce the importance of commitment and help remind you to keep the relationship exciting.</div><div><br /><b>7. Establish Goals Together</b><br /><br />Create some goals that you can work on together as a couple. It may include a financial goal, such as saving a certain amount of money to go to on a vacation. Or, it could include a fitness goal, such as running a half marathon together. Working toward your goals can help you feel like a team and gives you new things to talk about and do together.</div><div><br /><b>8. Discuss Your Hopes and Dreams</b><br />It’s likely that when you were dating, you talked about your hopes and dreams. However, over time, those sorts of conversations can fall by the wayside. Set time aside to continue to discuss your dreams for the future and support one another in making those dreams a reality.</div><div><br /><b>9. Ask Meaningful Questions</b><br />The types of questions people ask one another often change over time. Questions such as, “What was your life like when you were growing up?” often get replaced with questions like, “What do you want for dinner?” Ask meaningful questions about your partner’s past, thoughts on current events, and feelings about a variety of topics. Try to get past superficial day-to-day conversations and dive deeper.</div><div><br /></div><div><b>10. Greet One Another with Excitement </b></div><div><br /></div><div>The way you greet one another after being apart can set the tone for the rest of the day. Changing small habits, such as the way you greet your partner when they get home, can be key to a lasting relationship. Greet your partner at the door with a hug and a kiss and express your joy at being together again. This can start things off on the right foot and set you on the path to reconnect after being apart.</div><div><br /></div><div>credit: <a href="http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/10-ways-keep-your-relationship-exciting-and-fresh.html">lifehack.com</a></div>

Relationship Help: 10 Ways To Keep Your Love Evergreen

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27 Signs you’re with a Man who Actually Respects You

<br /><img alt="loveinjustine " height="583" src="https://thoughtcatalog.files.wordpress.com/2015/04/screen-shot-2015-04-22-at-7-03-03-pm.png?w=786&h=716" width="640" /><br /><br />1. Every time he introduces you to a friend or a family member, his short description of who you are makes you blush a lot because he never fails to exaggerate your best personality traits and your talents.<br /><br />2. When you passionately express a strong opinion while chatting with someone you’ve just met or to a group of old friends at a dinner party, it turns him on. You might even catch him at the corner of your gaze, just sitting back, smiling, and watching you make crazy gestures as you try to establish your point. <br /><br />3. He turns to you for subjects that you have more knowledge of. And he will ask you meaningful questions on these topics because he genuinely loves learning more from you. <br /><br />4. If he feels like he’s the expert on a specific area, he won’t act pompous or arrogant about it. If anything, he always takes pride in sharing the knowledge he has with you. <br /><br />5. When you mess up or struggle a bit with anything in life, he finds it endearing instead of taking it as a sign of weakness.<br /><br />6. He will consider it an accomplishment if he ever proves you wrong about anything because in his head, you’re right at least 75 percent of the time or so, whether or not you actually were. <br /><br />7. He will keep pushing you, sometimes even beyond your comfort one, just so you can pursue all your ambitions and dreams. That’s how much he believes in you.<br /><br />8. He always stays as excited about making you orgasm as he is about getting himself off.<br /><br />9. His sexual goals are usually focused on your pleasure instead of his own, like making sure you climax multiple times in a row, or trying out the new positions he researched that are supposed to feel great for a woman. <br /><br />10. He will get a bit jealous if you refer to another guy in your life- someone you actually respect and interact with on a regular basis. This isn’t because he can’t trust you, but because he knows how amazing you are and he’s always a little bit scared of losing you.<br /><br />11. In the rare instances when he doesn’t like what you’re wearing, he will manage to let you know without sounding offensive. In fact, he will even turn an outfit critique into a compliment, by saying something like: “This dress isn’t doing justice to your sexy body.” <br /><br />12. He isn’t scared of superlative when he compliments you. You are “the most amazing woman”, “the most perfect partner”, and the “smartest person” he has ever met. <br /><br />13. Every now and then, he also ends up saying something grandiose like “You mean everything to me” or “You are my entire world.” <br /><br />14. After some time, he might even come up with a semi-embarrassing hashtag in a social media post that’s a not-very-subtle ode to your relationship, something like #mylife or #Forever.<br /><br />15. He would rather help you study or do a project or perform some mundane chores with you than letting you go through these things alone, no matter how unappealing or dull the task sounds.<br /><br />16. He asks for your opinion on every single thing: wardrobe, current events, politics, career strategies, the authenticity of the latest celebrity rumors, etc. <br /><br />17. He isn’t scared of expressing his opinions, even when they differ greatly from yours. Because he knows it will result in a healthy debate instead of an angry fight.<br /><br />18. And while he always hopes to be heard, he will never expect you to just change your mind- unless it happens naturally. And in that case, he will feel extremely satisfied because he truly values your thoughts.<br /><br />19. He keeps forwarding you articles he knows will be interesting to you- about the things he never would have even opened before you started dating him. <br /><br />20. He has been your number one fan and he also considers you his.<br /><br />21. Any time you feel upset or stressed out about something, your bad mood triggers a desire inside him to be a better partner, and to start doing his best to help you get out of a difficult situation, even though he realizes that your problems aren’t hinging on him alone.<br /><br />22. If you say something really nasty or end up going to an extreme during a fight, he doesn’t allow this to impact his view of you. He understands that he is equally capable of saying or doing something stupid in the heat of the moment.<br /><br />23. If he ever hurts you, he takes the pain you feel seriously. And he makes a heartfelt apology and commitment to be more mindful of your feelings in the future.<br /><br />24. He isn’t shy about leaning on you when he’s sick, sad, exhausted or just in need of some extra attention and love.<br /><br />25. He stays committed to dividing all your free time as a couple between your different friend groups and he keeps making efforts to integrate the two groups whenever it seems reasonable. <br /><br />26. He goes the extra mile to take you along on social events or work-related gatherings, even if he’s aware that he will be the only guy there with a plus-one. <br /><br />27. And if he does end up heading some place without you, he will send you a text saying that he wishes you were there with him. And he won’t do this just to flatter you, but because he actually does have more fun whenever you are around.<div><br /></div><div>credit: <a href="http://www.relrules.com/27-signs-youre-dating-a-man-who-actually-respects-you/3/">relrules.com</a></div>

27 Signs you’re with a Man who Actually Respects You

1. Every time he introduces you to a friend or a family member, his short description of who you are makes you blush a lot because he never ...

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Top 8 Reasons your Girlfriend might End up Breaking up with you

<img alt="Image result for girls" height="398" src="https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcRPb04KHjROqeXqPrvifPLhafir4QNpdjn97jErR-8XRzS5uZpe" width="640" /><br /><br />Many studies have revealed that women are much more likely to initiate a breakup than men. One particular survey even revealed that 50% of women only give their partners the half-truth as to why they’re leaving him. Well, we’re here to enlighten you a bit on this topic so that you can finally get some closure or maybe even save your relationship from crashing down.<br /><br />Here is a list of 8 most common reasons why your girlfriend might end up breaking up with you:<div><br /></div><div><br /><b>1. You’re not spending enough time together</b></div><div><b><br /></b>Research has revealed that one of the biggest reasons why a relationship fails is attributed to a lack of time spent together. A girl loves having some “us time”. Now I’m not saying she expects you to spend every waking minute of your life with her, but there should be some sort of balance.<br /><br />What’s the point of being in a relationship if your partner can’t even seem to take some time out for you on a weekend, a holiday, or after work? If you don’t dedicate any of your time to her, she will start feeling like you’re not interested in staying in this relationship. And she might decide to end it before you do.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /><b>2. You haven’t put a ring on it… for years</b><br />The ultimate realization that she might never become your wife, especially when it’s the one thing her heart desires, might push her away from you forever.<br /><br />Author, life coach, and motivational speaker Tony Gaskins stated in his blog that he believes that if a man dates a woman for 3-5 years and hasn’t proposed, he’s just passing time. A woman will be quick to pick up on this attitude and she will leave.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /><b>3. Bad sex</b><br />Yes, as much as all of us like to believe that sex is not as significant as other aspects of your relationship, it is still very much significant. Tammy Nelson, Ph.D., a Board Certified Sexologist and Certified Sex Therapist advised that a couple who has bad sex eventually becomes discouraged about their future together.<br /><br />It isn’t only the physical aspect of sex that will turn a woman away. It’s also the sexual communication or lack of it that will really grind her chain. If you’re actually willing to talk it out and listen, she might be willing to try different things as well.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /><b>4. Huge Differences</b><br />Opposites do attract but when two people just aren’t able to see eye to eye on extremely crucial issues in life, then they will only end up doing more harm to their relationship than good. This might be because your careers are at very different places or she wants to have kids while you want to adopt or you wish to live in the city while she has always dreamed of having a cozy house in the countryside.<br /><br />Whatever the reason might be, there are some issues where you just can’t reach a compromise. She wants what she wants without having to make you feel bad. So it’s better for her to just leave.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /><b>5. You’ve been emotionally unavailable</b><br />Marriage Counsellor, Justice Schanfarber, stated in an article that women end up leaving because they feel that their man is not present, even if she still loves you and even if you have children together.<br /><br />She needs to know that you’re there for her. If you always stay absent-minded, it will make her feel like you’re taking her for granted. She wants to know that the passion is still alive between you two and if she isn’t able to feel that connection, she will choose to leave even if it hurts.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /><b>6. Bad Communication</b><br />You haven’t been man enough to discuss an issue face to face with her or you only talk to her through a gadget or even worst- on some social media platform. No communication, rare communication, or virtual communication aren’t enough to build a strong relationship. Founder and CEO of Balanced Life Academy Group, David Oragui, advised in his article “Why is Communication Important in a Relationship” that “Communication in a relationship is extremely important because it acts as the judge jury who has the final say on whether your relationship lives or dies.”<br /><br />Let this sink in for a while and answer this: are you a good communicator?</div><div><br /></div><div><br /><b>7. Financial instability</b><br />This goes deeper than just being broke. This covers the ambitions and goals you have in life, and your drive to actually do/be something. While your girlfriend can understand how the economy has been rough, one thing that might not sit well with her is if you’re never there to support her financially even if it’s only to split a bill.<br /><br />One matchmaking service revealed that over 95% females answered “yes” when they were asked if income is important to them. Your financial stability acts as a reflection of your ambition. Every girl loves an ambition man even if she is keen on staying independent and providing for herself.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /><b>8. Abuse</b><br />Abuse can be physical, verbal, or emotional. But whatever the type you make her go through, she will end up taking her battle scars and leaving. She is a human being just like you.<br /><br />She deserves to get respect for her body, her emotions, and her thoughts. Damage any of that and your relationship will get broken forever. Steven Stosny, Ph.D. advised in hyschologytoday.com that an emotionally abusive relationship is bound to undermine her worthiness, confidence, trust or growth, and will make her feel unstable and manipulated with shame.<br /></div><div><br /></div><div>credit: <a href="http://www.relrules.com/top-8-reasons-your-girlfriend-might-end-up-breaking-up-with-you/3/">relrules.com</a></div>

Top 8 Reasons your Girlfriend might End up Breaking up with you

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Ladies, See How To Know If A Guy Is Still A V! rgin

<div><img alt="Image result for woman on top of man" height="426" src="http://www.info7.mx/foto/450000/453995_salud-sexual-habitos.jpg" width="640" /></div><div><br /><div>Here are The five tips to know if your partner Is still a v! g!rn<br /><br /><div><b>1. He is Very Shy About Touching You</b><br /><br />He asks for permission before touching your body… A guy who has had s£x at least once will not be so shy of touching a girl. In fact shyness towards the opposite s£ x reduces in men who have been intimate before. You cannot completely say a guy is a virgin just because he is shy about being intimate, but it’s a strong sign. So if a guy is shy about touching you, especially at the private and intimate body parts, it shows that he is still a virgin.</div><div><br /></div><div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: Carme; font-size: 17.1875px; line-height: 29.2188px; margin-bottom: 1.625em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; zoom: 1;"><b>2. He Dresses Awkwardly</b></div>Most virgin males tend to have an embarrassing dress sense. This is usually so, because they believe they don’t have much reasons to pay attention to their dressing because they’ve not experienced what s£x is like. This usually begins to improve the moment they meet the girl they like but even at that, it is still noticeable to the smart ladies.</div><div><br /></div><div><div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: Carme; font-size: 17.1875px; line-height: 29.2188px; margin-bottom: 1.625em; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; zoom: 1;"><b>3. He Kisses Awkwardly</b></div>That a guy is a bad ki sser does not mean he is a virgin oh. But if a guy kisses awkwardly, in a very shy manner, it’s almost a sure sign that he is a virgin. If a guy is pretty good at kissing you can be sure that he is not a vir gin no matter what he says. Kissing takes practice and people get good at it with experience. Another sign to look out for is whether he closes his eyes while kissing, most virgins tend to do that a lot. * lol..</div><div><br /></div><br /><br /><b>4. Usually Quiet, Shy, and has poor social skills </b><div><br /></div><div>Male virgins are usually quiet, reserved and act in a feminine manner. they have a cowardly behavior, appear passive in interactions and have poor social skills. Male virgins are also timid and shy and usually do not know how to ask a lady out and make out with her. A lot o f them would rather ask out a lady on the phone or through social media than face to face.</div><div><br /><br /><b>5. He Has a Very Quick Org asm</b><br /><br />If it’s his first intimate experience in love making, he is going to orgasm quickly. Some virgin guys tend to Erupt even before entering or as soon as they enter. The first experience is always a nervous one for a guy because he will be constantly thinking about how he is performing, and he will get aroused at the slightest act of intimacy on your part causing him to Erupt quickly. Guys with experience can control themselves a lot better.</div></div></div><div><br /></div><div>credit: <a href="http://www.naijaflash.com.ng/ladies-see-know-guy-still-v-rgin/">naijaflash.com</a></div>

Ladies, See How To Know If A Guy Is Still A V! rgin

Here are The five tips to know if your partner Is still a v! g!rn 1. He is Very Shy About Touching You He asks for permission before touchin...

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5 Things That Will 100% KILL Your Relationship (Unless You Stop NOW)

<div style="text-align: justify;"><img alt="relationship%20problems" height="320" src="http://naijaflash.com.ng/wp-content/uploads/2016/10/relationship20problems-300x150.jpg" width="640" /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Let’s be honest …</div><div style="text-align: justify;">At times, no matter how solid your relationship</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">may be, it will experience challenges.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Disagreements and conflict are simply facts of</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">life, and are certain to arise.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Here are 5 of the most common sources of</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">relationship troubles, so you can identify what is</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">going on and get yourselves back on track.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><b>1. Having expectations of how you should be loved.</b></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">There is a natural human desire for love and</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">acceptance. When this desire turns into an</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">expectation, it often leads to disappointment and</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">demands.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Truth is, no one can love you as you want to be</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">loved, because no other person can be you. We</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">each love another person based on how we</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">perceive and understand love. So your partner</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">loves you the best they know how, given their</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">current understanding and belief about love.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">If you have expectations for how you want to be</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">loved and feel frustrated your partner isn’t</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">“getting it,” you are suggesting the person should</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">know you the way you do. This is unrealistic, and</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">a setup for the relationship to remain challenging</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">and unfailing for both of you.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><b>2. Letting your past experiences shape your </b><b>ongoing beliefs about love.</b></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Both you and your partner come from different life</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">experiences. You didn’t share the same parents,</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">childhood experiences, living space, etc., so it is</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">natural that both of you will have different</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">perspectives and belief systems around the way</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">relationships “should be.”</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Based on each of your unique experiences,</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">perspectives and beliefs, you are both right and</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">living your own truth regarding expressing loving</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">and being in relationship.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Somewhere in the middle of both of your</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">perspectives and truths is the actual truth of how</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">the two of you can best give and receive love and</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">be in relationship.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">To find that mid-point, you must both be willing</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">to accept the other’s point of view and, from</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">there, work at finding common ground.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Relationships becomes more challenging and</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">taxing when we resist and refuse to accept the</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">other’s perspectives and ways.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><b>3. Allowing your need to be right to be more </b><b>important than your need to be happy.</b></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">One of the biggest relationship challenges of all is</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">the need to be right.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">This need causes power struggles, mistrust, and</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">conflict in relationships. This need to be right has</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">a negative impact on communication, setting and</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">achieving relationship goals, cooperation with</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">financial issues, and intimacy and sexual</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">struggles.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">If you need to be right above all else, your partner</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">will feel judged, unimportant, insignificant,</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">unloved and under-valued for who they are. What</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">makes relationships work is when both partners</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">align with the relationship, not themselves.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Your challenge is to see the value in your</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">partners views and beliefs and to consider their</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">points of view. This helps broaden your</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">perspective of your partner’s experience, and</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">deepens the meaning of the relationship.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Doing this promotes inner happiness , and shows</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">your partner you care about them, value their</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">perspective, and value your relationship with</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">them .</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><b>4. Sweeping important issues under the rug.</b></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Many relationship concerns and issues get</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">ignored, overlooked, and buried because of the</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">daily rush around work, raising kids and meeting</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">other needs and obligations. These demands</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">leave little to no time or energy for partner-to-</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">partner discussion.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Maybe one or both of you dread confrontation and</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">conflict, or maybe you just don’t make the time to</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">talk things out and work through issues together .</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Sweeping problems under the rug is avoidance,</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">which only leads to bigger challenges and</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">problems arising later on. You can only avoid an</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">issue for so long before it shows its ugly self in</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">the way of resentment, tension, arguments, and</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">mistrust.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">As the saying goes, “What you resist will persist.”</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Learn to accept and deal with issues and conflict</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">as they happen to avoid greater conflict and hurt</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">in the future. Use constructive problem-solving</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">skills and seek to be proactive rather than</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">reactive within the issue and the discussion</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">around problem-solving it.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><b>5. Putting your children’s needs first.</b></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">As more single and divorced adults are raising</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">children on their own, they continue to seek a</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">suitable life partner. While dating and blending</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">families as a couple can be a wonderful</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">experience, it can also be challenging and</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">difficult, full of frustration, misunderstanding,</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">tension and resentment.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Researcher E. Mavis Hetherington, PhD found that</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">the the divorce rate for second marriages “to be</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">50 percent higher in remarriages with stepchildren.”</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Not all blended families have the same level of</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">complexity, Dr. Hetherington went on to specify</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">that in “simple stepfamilies” (where only one</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">partner brought a child or children to the new</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">marriage) the overall divorce rate is 65%, whereas</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">when both partners have children from previous</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">relationships (“complex stepfamilies”) the divorce</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">rate is slightly more than 70%.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">There is often much resistance and struggle from</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">the children, and a major adjustment for them.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Children may feel powerless, because the blending is not their choice. This can cause greater</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">resistance and defiance to one or both partners/parents in the relationship.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">credit: <a href="http://www.naijaflash.com.ng/love-tips-5-things-will-100-kill-relationship-unless-stop-now/">naijaflash.com.ng</a></div>

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Questions to ask Yourself Before Breaking up with your Partner

<div><img alt="Image result for Questions to ask yourself before breaking up with your partner" height="439" src="http://greatist.com/sites/default/files/Breakup.jpg" width="640" /></div><div><br /></div>Whatever the reasons you have for desiring a break up, take some time to ask yourself if this is indeed what you want.<br /><br />For certain reasons, you might think ending that relationship is the answer to the stress being experienced in your relationship right now.<br /><br />However, it is expected of adults to make logical, well-thought decisions and not just rash ones that will hurt them in the long run.<br /><br />It is definitely better to not breakup, than to do it and regretfully wish you could bring it back.<br /><br />ALSO READ: <a href="http://www.rftalk.org/2016/10/the-kind-of-man-you-are-going-to-marry.html" style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: none; padding: 0px; transition: all 0.25s; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="color: red;">The kind of Man you are Going to Marry According to your Zodiac Sign</span></a><br /><br />Therefore, you must consider the things below before you conclude that a breakup is what is best for you at any particular time.<div><br /></div><br /><b>Why do I want to break up with this person?</b><br />Simply because this is what everyone will ask you afterwards. Your friends, your family and everyone who knew you both as a couple.<br /><br />You have to first sit and answer the question by yourself. How logical, reasonable or convincing do you sound to yourself?<div><br /></div><br /><b>Is there a way to work out the issues you are facing?</b><br />You just can’t up and leave a relationship without trying to fix the problems that you are being confronted with.<br /><br />You have to really consider ways to reach a resolution, or some sort of agreement with your partner on how to get the relationship on its feet.<br /><br />Ask yourself, have I exhausted all my options? Is a breakup indeed the last option for me?<div><br /></div><br /><b>Will I regret the decision?</b><br />Right before you break the bad news to them, you might feel reluctant. And even after, you may feel bad for ending things. And it’s just normal.<br /><br />So you need to consider if you will live for a long, long time regretting the decision to split from the love of your life.<br /><br />If you genuinely know that regret is sure after this breakup, you might want to cancel the idea.<div><br /></div><b><br />What will life be like post-breakup?<br /></b>Imagining your day-to-day without the person you're used to seeing 24/7 iwill no doubt be heartbreaking.<br /><br />Maybe the thought might make you reconsider breaking up.<br />How should I do it?<br /><br />Even if you are going to leave them after all these considerations, you must still try to be humane about it.<br /><br /><br /><b>So, ask yourself how you want to make it happen.</b><br />It’s advisable to choose a way that will soften the blow.<br />What should my choice of words be?<br /><br />Depending on the reason why you are even considering a breakup in the first instance, you might want to be hurtful with your words, or as gentle as possible.<br /><br />We hope you choose the latter, though.<br /><br />You want to let the other person down as gently but please be as honest as possible and do not sugarcoat the situation.<div><br /></div><div><br /><b>To remain friends afterwards or not?</b><br /><br />Some people never want to see their exes again, other prefer to still remain friends with them.<br /><br />Consider how you feel about them. Will it still be cool with you to stay friends with them, or you’d never want to hear or even come across them ever again in this lifetime?</div><div><br /></div><br /><b>What has this relationship taught you?</b><br />Leaving someone to whom you have opened the whole of yourself might be hurtful and all that.<br /><br />On the flipside, though, every person you date is a chance to learn a little more about yourself and the things you like or do not like in a partner.<br /><br />So ask yourself what this relationship has taught you.<div><br /></div><div>credit: <a href="http://pulse.ng/relationships/relationship-tips-questions-to-ask-yourself-before-breaking-up-with-your-partner-id5625355.html">pulse.ng</a></div>

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6 Things You Want in a Man that you Shouldn’t Even Have to Ask for

<img alt="Image result for 6 things you want in a man that you shouldn’t even have to ask for" height="458" src="http://magazine.foxnews.com/sites/magazine.foxnews.com/files/styles/700_image/public/DinnerDate.jpg?itok=rqOOBft3" width="640" /><br /><br />In the few relationships I’ve had in my life, I felt like I was always the captain.<br /><br />And as the captain, I was forced to choose the things we would do and the places we would visit. I planned. I delegated. And I initiated most things.<br /><br />I planned our dates. I booked tickets for our vacations. I brought up unresolved issues. And I did the grocery. I basically did everything. And it sometimes hurt me to think that my boyfriend never made an effort to help out.<br /><br />I’ve learnt now that I don’t wish to be the only captain. I’d much rather share the wheel with someone.<br /><br />I hope to find someone new- someone who has the will and courage to take charge, to travel, to voice his own opinions and to have his own set of aspirations and goals in life.<br /><br />I want a guy who can hold things down, a lover who can help in keeping me grounded and can continue growing right next to me, a partner who can be my team mate first and then my one true soul mate, and a man who knows how to be both a gentleman and a freak.<br /><br />And here’s how a man can do all of this:<div><br /><b>1. He should be able to make plans.</b><br /><br />It feels very disappointing when a guy asks us repeatedly about the plans without offering any ideas of his own.<br /><br />Guys, we are not your assistants in life. We shouldn’t always be expected to craft dates or trips. It can be quite draining to research on the perfect vacation or craft out prospective plans.<br /><br />A relationship is supposed to be a mix of give and take. So it would be nice if you could take the reins at times.<br /><br />Guys, start with giving a little. Plan out something, anything at all! That one “Get ready, we’re going out tonight” text is bound to light up any girl’s face, even if you do end up taking her to the nearest Burger King joint. <div><br /><b>2. He should be teaching YOU something in bed.</b><br /><br />A woman shouldn’t have to be the only person in the relationship who introduces new tricks and positions. We like getting sexual pleasure just as much as men do.<br /><br />Give us those sweaty and exciting sex stories that can make us smirk even in the times when we’re buried with work. Stop doing your one set routine in the bedroom. Think of something other than the predictable missionary position. Surprise us with sex in the kitchen, in the car, anywhere you can think of…</div><div><br /><b>3. He should act protective.</b><br /><br />Now I’m not saying he should turn into a complete psychopath, and start monitoring every move you make. But one thing that’s absolutely necessary is that he should always have your back.<br /><br />If you’re feeling sick, he should be making you soup- just like you do every time. He should be able to make you feel protected and secure in knowing that he is always going to look out and stand up for you in every situation.<br /><br /><br />To everyone else around you, he might seem like a personal bodyguard. But to you, he’s just a fierce-looking teddy bear.</div><div><br /><b>4. He should just come right out and tell you when you’re pissing him off.</b><br /><br />A coward will always withhold his true feelings. Men who don’t have balls will never be verbal. They won’t communicate well. And they will keep all their emotions and feelings bottled up until they eventually drown in them. This will end up destroying a relationship.<br /><br />A real man knows how to speak out about exactly what he’s feeling in an attempt to acknowledge, resolve and prevent any problems that exist in the relationship. He will remain humble enough to swallow his pride but bold enough to voice his concerns. </div><div><br /><b>5. He should be courageous.</b><br /><br />You both should be able to keep up with each other in every way possible.<br /><br />If you’re the girl who likes to snorkel in a sea full of sharks or dive off an airplane, make sure you pick a guy who will be there to hold your hand.<br /><br />And if he ever asks you to be his gym partner, just give it a try. Take out those old sweats.<br /><br />If you remain supportive of your partner’s lifestyle, you will watch that support get reciprocated.<br /><br /><br /><br />A courageous guy will never shy away from your passion and love for adventure (or even from your love itself). He will always be as down for you as you have always been for him.</div><div><br /><b>6. He should be focused and driven.</b><br /><br />It’s not just necessary for your boyfriend to support and encourage all your career goals and prospects. It’s also necessary for him to have a set of his own.<br /><br />Nothing can be more attractive than an intelligent and ambitious person. A perpetual desire for success and self-improvement is a requirement. A Queen will always want a King, and it’s just not possible to place a crown on an airhead!<br /></div></div>

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11 Kinds of Guys who are Totally Worth your time

<img alt="Image result for 11 Kinds of Guys who are Totally Worth your time" height="426" src="http://ell.h-cdn.co/assets/cm/15/02/54ac64d9cbb37_-_elle-kiss-h-elh.jpg" width="640" /><br /><br />This is to all those sweet hearts who have won our hearts over and over again. Despite of some acting like jerks, these men have always restored our faith in men.<br /><br />I realised that we complain too much about how some men treat us (badly, that is) and we forget to really appreciate the men who have been nice to us, who have been kind to us. Who basically are the reason why we keep going out there, trying to find the right guy for us!<br /><br /><div><b>1. The kind of guy who always walks you home</b><br />Regardless of how far it is or how late it is, he takes it as his duty to get you home. This guy will ensure that you feel protected and actually are protected!<br /><br />Such men are an example for all the others, these are the kind who will walk on that side of the walkway that faces the road. These are the kind who will stand behind us in the crowd, making sure we are protected from every side and that no one dares to make us feel uncomfortable.<br /><br /><b>2. The kind of guy who listens to all our rants</b><br />Ok! Here is a simple truth about men and women; Women talk too much and men can’t listen long enough.<br />That’s why we always find ourselves asking them if they remember what we told them, which they usually don’t and we end up feeling less important.<br /><br />But these kind of guys will try hard and make an effort to show you that they could have been doing anything in the world but chose to be right there with you and for you. </div><div><br /><b>3. The guy who actually calls you after spending the night</b><br /><br />No he does not disappear into thin air after he has gone to bed with you. He calls you the very morning to check on you. Even if things don’t work out afterwards, even if it was momentarily but they show the kind of respect a woman would want.</div><div><br /><b>4. The kind of guy who isn’t scared to commit himself</b><br /><br />These men are mature enough to understand the importance of commitment when the right woman comes along. They don’t feel like their freedom is being threatened or they haven’t enjoyed their lives enough. When they meet a woman who is worth committing to, they will commit themselves. Serious relationships do not bother them.</div><div><br /><b>5. The kind of guy who is strong on how women should be treated, who believes in empowering women</b><br /><br />Not that women should be the dominating sex, no one should be really but at least he doesn’t go on saying, ‘women can’t do this or that’. He is the kind who takes women as an equal and does not try and tell them the things they cannot do because even though at times women really can’t do the exact things that men can’t do but they don’t like to be told so. This kind of a guy gets it and doesn’t rub it on women’s faces.</div><div><br /><b>6. That kind guy who is just a call away, the guy you can really rely on</b><br />Here is the reason why my best friend is a guy; he has been there more than any of my girlfriends. I don’t need to tell him when to be there and what to do; he is just there when I need a friend. I don’t have to form my feelings into sentences that make sense, he would still sit there and understand everything that I say, even if it is utter BS!<br /><br />That is the kind guy you want in your life.</div><div><b><br />7. The kind of guy who doesn’t just promise, he delivers</b><br /><br />This guy whom you can trust when he gives you his words. He knows the importance of a promise and he knows the pain of a heartbreak! He knows and he will never let you go through it. He will not promise you something he can’t deliver and he will deliver whatever he promises you!</div><div><br /><b>8. The kind of guy who is nice to everyone, the elderly and especially animals</b><br /><br />Oh God! Nothing melts a girl’s heart than a man who has everything going for him yet he is humble and helps others. Who doesn’t want to date a guy who takes out the time from his busy schedule to volunteer at an old age home or a guy who is extra gentle with animals? Trust me! If you do this, any girl would fall for you before knowing you, your name or anything really.</div><div><br /><b>9. The kind of guy who makes you laugh</b><br /><br />Who doesn’t like a funny guy? A nice, quick-witted guy is a catch and would appeal to any woman who crosses paths with him.<br /><br />His sense of humour helps lighten up the tensed moments of life. Even when the two of you fight, you both end up laughing because even in that tense moment, he makes things funny. It is always good to have that kind of positivity in your life. </div><div><br /><b>10. The kind of guy who helps you believe in yourself</b><br /><br />This guy can do wonders for your confidence, your self-esteem and your drive to achieve your goals.<br />He will be there to support you and to help you have faith in yourself when it starts to breakdown. They will show you how they believe in you, their inspiring words can really help you in those dark days when everything seems to be falling apart and you just want to hide in a corner.</div><div><br /><b>11. The kind of guy who lets you be yourself and doesn’t try to change you</b><br /><br />Even if you act a bit childish, a bit stubborn, he sees the innocence behind everything. He sees the real you and lets go of petty things that sometimes become bothering.<br /><br />Also, he will love you the way you are, not the way he thinks he can change you into. Everyone should be loved for the way they are because no one can truly change themselves forever.<br /><br />These guys make love and friendship so much better and so worth it that you would actually take the risk to find such men even if it means getting your hearts broken on the way because you know once you find such a kind, chivalrous, humble, sweet and funny guy, you have really found the one.</div><div><br /><b>Ladies, talk to me</b><br />Ladies, does your man match any of these qualities? Have you found the one? Tell me about it in the comments below.</div><div><br /></div><div>credit: <a href="http://www.relrules.com/guys-who-are-totally-worth-your-time/4/">relrules.com</a></div>

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